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Don't Let Anything Hold You Back #goals #aspirations #stigma

This was a really good week for me.  I lost 3 lbs.  I didn't do anything different this week from the other weeks.  I guess my body just readjusted itself.  That is how it is sometimes on the weight loss train.  You will lose a bit, taper off, plateau, lose again.    I know personally that I can be doing everything right and not lose an ounce.  But that doesn't mean I am not losing inches, or gaining muscle or confidence.  Stick with your plan and in the long run, you will see results.

On another topic,  I wanted to talk about how we can sometimes let the things other people do or say, or the perception we may have of what other people think or say, effect us emotionally.

Do you ever go out to dinner and think of having dessert, but do not order it because you are afraid that the waiter or waitress will think negative things about you?  How about not going to the gym or not wearing an outfit because you fear what others will think or say about you?   

Don't allow yourself to be held back because you are either being discriminated because of your size or shape, or because you perceive yourself in a negative way.  Also, stop blaming yourself for what others may or may not think of you. The only way that you are going to start making more positive strides and loving yourself more, is if you train your brain to recognize the stigma and work through it by standing up for yourself and start looking at things differently.

We know that there are people in this world who will be rude, disrespectful, ignorant or unkind.  If we teach ourselves coping skills to overcome them, we can help to gain self confidence and not turn to food as a crutch.  

When you are faced with a negative situation, such as an eye roll or negative comment, take a step back, analyze the situation, and who it is coming from, and then rethink your thought process.  Let me give you an example.

You are in the restaurant and ask for a piece of cake after dinner.  The waiter rolls his eyes at you.  Do you say to yourself , I don't blame him for rolling his eyes, I don't need that piece of cake?  Why do you do that?  There is nothing wrong with you having that cake, if you are working it into your diet routine responsibly.  Next time that happens, say to yourself,  "He can roll his eyes all he wants, I am entitled to have a piece of cake if I want to."

Think of what you would say to a friend if they were being negatively stigmatized by another person and came to you for advice.  What would you say to them?  Take those thoughts or words, and say them to yourself.

When you are starting on a self improvement journey, you are taking strides in the right direction.  You should be proud of yourself and what you are doing. So what if you want to walk around the block in a pair of stretch pants.  Who cares what other people think or say.  You are doing a positive thing for yourself and your health.  Don't let ignorant people stand in your way of progress.

I had a friend who was dieting and taking off weight on a fairly steady basis and she went to the doctor and he didn't acknowledge her progress.  He just told her to keep losing.  This upset her and she spoke to me about it.  I told her to  rethink how she felt.  I told her the next time she goes to the doctor, to let him know that her weight isn't only a number on a scale.  There are other aspects of her progress.  Tell him about the victories you have accomplished in your self confidence, in your exercise routine and in your overall well being.

You can't let your progress depend on other people's reactions or comments.  You have to first look within yourself and train your brain to take the negative words or actions and create a positive outcome to them.

How do we do that?

First I want to point out that the brain isn't train to be happy or positive all of the time.  It is trained to be in survival mode. So, with that being said, you will have to work at changing your negative thoughts to positive ones. 

Everyone is different, so we will all have our different ways of training our brains to be more positive.  But here are some idea from Power or Positivity to get you started. also has a few very good articles on positive thinking and self-talk, which I use all the time.

Positive Thinking 


Love Yourself.