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How to Share a Bed With Your Partner and Still Rest Well


Whether you've just moved in with the person of your dreams or have been sleeping in the same bed as your partner (and your dog) for years, everyone has trouble adjusting to sharing the bed at first.

The good news is that there's a lot of people who looked into these issues. Sleep is, after all, one of the most important parts of the day. If you don't get a good night's sleep you'll be irritable, sleepy, and tired all day. 

So today, let's go through some tips and tricks to help you and your partner sleep better together. 

Spring Mattresses Are Overrated 

We get it. Everyone loves the bounciness- but it can all backfire pretty easily as soon as you have a partner move into your bed.

The spring mattress shakes and moves if your partner does, and it's a different kind of pain when your partner moves around in bed a lot. We get it, the bounciness is fun for certain activities, but the best mattress would be one that's bouncy but doesn't shake all over when your partner shifts and turns in bed at night. Especially when it comes to intimate relations.

There are countless mattresses on sale these days that are the perfect compromise between bounciness and stability. If it's not out of your budget, it might be a good long-term investment. 


Sometimes sleeping with your partners can be an issue no matter how much you love them. Snorers disturb everyone's peace but their own, but there are things you can do to help yourself out. 

The most important thing to do is to rule out any medical reasons for your partner's (or your own) snoring. It could be a symptom of a deeper medical issue and if the snoring is too loud or never-ending it would be a good idea to go to the doctor. 

If that's not the case, there are over-the-counter measures you can invest in to keep the disturbance to a minimum. 

Blanket Hogging 

If you're not used to being two under the blanket, and you find that you or your partner ends up freezing in the cold because one person decided to selfishly gather it all up during the night, it's time for drastic measures.

No rule says you and your partner have to share a single blanket all night. In fact, there are no rules about sleeping with your partner at all, which means you can do whatever helps you sleep better at night. 

Invest in two separate comforters so there's more than enough for both of you, and even in a larger comforter if that works! 

Waking Up at Night 

Hardly anyone sleeps straight through the night, and in that case, it's important to remember that you're not alone in your bed anymore. 

If you have an interrupted sleep issue, don't stay in bed and risk waking your partner up. Take a book- or your phone, and leave the room so your partner's sleep isn't disturbed. You can come back when you're feeling sleepy again, but there's no reason for you to make your partner suffer for your inconsistent sleep. 

Hot or Cold? 

Sometimes the universe aligns and deals you a worse hand than usual. In this case, your otherwise perfect partner turns out to have a habit of sleeping in the cold, while you prefer to be warm and bundled up when you sleep. 

What then? Well, some of the most obvious solutions are to wear different kinds of pajamas. Thick and cuddly for the warm sleeper, thin and light for the cool one. You can even invest in comforters of different materials and thicknesses to maintain your body temperatures at the preferred levels. 

There are even mattresses now that help maintain a body temperature that would be perfect, even for you and your partner's differing needs. 

In the end, sleeping with your partner is all about remembering that there are no rules for you to keep. Do whatever you hate to do, to make sure you and your partner get undisturbed sleep and a good night's rest. And if it doesn't work, there's no rule saying that you absolutely have to sleep together, either.